After seeing and holding the newest member of our family friends week old newbie, I’ve realised that there is nothing as beautiful and amazing as the sight of a new born baby, oh and the the smell, the smell of a newborn is so incredible, if you could bottle that new smell up….. It would fly of the shelves im telling you. That wonderful smell was like a spell cast over me, it almost made me tell my husband that we should go for number four, well for a good five minutes until that feeling of being scooped in to a hurricane of child chaos, crying and tantrums made me realise that I couldn't possibly have another baby.
No way. No how.
Now I love babies, kids, children of all ages. I could sit and cuddle all day. But Having a baby is hard work, as cute and cuddly, as beautiful and loving it is to have children it’s also scary, exhausting, literally physically and emotionally exhausting, and hard. So thats me I’m done. I actually applaud and high five the mums that have more than two children, to me they are just amazing,myself included, how do they do it all? I am completely winging the life out of parenting I feel faint just thinking about it.
Nevertheless, all stages of Motherhood are hard, I wish someone sat me down before I had children to really tell me the in’s and outs, to explain that there will be very high highs’ and extremely low low’s. And maybe just maybe I wouldn’t be such a fruit loop.
So here are some things I wish I knew before I had my kids:
1. You won’t sleep. Even if your baby is a “sleeper” you still won’t sleep; how can you? The media, doctors and everyone in between will worry you so much you’ll never sleep soundly again. The only real sleep you’ll get is when you go away, without your kids, all by yourself in a hotel room.
2. Little bitty babies – think of them as a little human – They will constantly change the goal posts. Just when you think you've got it figured out boom they change everything upside down again.It’s one of the most challenging “things” to grasp and can be rough if you’re a Type A-person and want things a certain way but try to go with the flow, it will help a lot.
3. Choose two or three close family or friends that you can bounce your questions off of, if you ask too many people you’ll end up in that padded room.
4. Mummy brain. You will NOT remember a thing, don’t worry it happens to all of us.
5. TRUST yourself. Please trust yourself. You are doing your Best.
6. You will make mistakes and it’s okay. Nobody has a parenting guidebook everyone is winging it.
7. Don’t compare your child to anyone, even a sibling. Each child is unique, has their own character and abilities.
8. Bottle fed, breast fed, who cares. Feed your baby how ever the hell you see fit. Do not feel ashamed or judged. You do what's best for you.
9. Embrace your new body. Yes it might not be the same as before but your freaking awesome. You have grown a tiny human inside. Give yourself some credit. You rock!
10. You will become a human tissue. You will find tissues, wipes, sleeves very useful for your darlings constant runny nose.
11. The washing never ends. It never will, the laundry room will be your best friend.
12. Be kind to yourself, take care of yourself, take time for yourself – an hour a week – if it’s a walk, reading a book, having your hair or nails done. do something, you have to fill your own cup up or you won’t be able to help anyone else.
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